Practitioners of: Safe • Sane • Consensual. & Risk • Aware • Consensual • Kink.
Sadism & Masochism
Sadomasochism should not be confused with violence or abuse.
Sadomasochism is always based on consent.
This includes careful negotiation of the boundaries, limits & desires of the individuals involved.
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Sadomasochism (S&M) is about the giving & receiving of pleasure through the application of different types of intense sensation, pain and/or humiliation, be it physical or psychological. While S&M can be a facet of Dominant/submissive relationships, it is also practiced on its own without the element of control associated with D/s dynamics.
Sadism refers to the pleasure derived from the giving of pain, while
Masochism refers to pleasure derived from receiving pain.
Both terms were popularized by psychologist Richard von Krafft-Ebing who named Sadism after the infamous Marquis de Sade, and Masochism after Leopold von Sacher-Masoch.
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Sadists get a rush from inflicting pain on their partner & seeing their reactions, which can intensify & increase their own arousal.
Masochists get a rush from the intense sensations of pain, which can intensify & increase their arousal.
But WHY do it? Because pain, as with pleasure, causes the body to release endorphins, which our brains associate with euphoria and enjoyment.
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Is it all whips and chains?
Nope! Many people think of S&M as only whips & chains, but a lot of people don’t realize that they’re probably incorporating some elements of S&M in their sex lives already! If they’ve ever playfully bitten, scratched or pulled the hair of their partner, they’re participating in S&M activities.
Again these activities are strictly consensual.
Everything is negotiated & agreed upon before any action is taken.
The masochist can stop the activity at any time.