Roles & Titles

As new roles & titles are created every day (and every person has a different definition for what a given role/title means to them), this is not a comprehensive list. But we tried to include a wide variety of roles/titles. If you don't see you role/title or would like us to add to a definition, please message us.

All definitions under these roles & titles are based off of pre-negotiated & CONSENSUAL relationships.

Practitioners of Kink/BDSM only act on these roles in consensual situations.

Sadist

Sadists enjoy inflicting (certain types of) pain on their partner(s), in a consensual situation. This can be non-sexual or sexual.

Dominant

Dominants like to be in charge. Some like to have their partner obey them without questioning, others like some resistance while taking it their way. Some are dominant only in the bedroom, others are dominant throughout their daily life as well (usually with limitations). Unlike the top roles (giving pain/bondage/degradation), being dominant is more about who decides what happens (and takes the responsibility that comes with it) than about the contents of what happens.

Brat tamer

Brat tamers are, in essence, dominants who enjoy handling bratty submissives. They find disobedience a form of playfulness from the side of the submissive, rather than a form of rudeness. They will take no offence to it, but will still teach the sub a well deserved lesson (because, of course, that is why the bratty sub shows such behavior in the first place).

Daddy/Mommy

Daddies/Mommies take on a caretaker role in the relationship, being a guide as much a dominant. Daddies/Mommies dominate their little treasure submissives with an iron fist in a velvet glove: much cuddly and affectionate on the outside, while being as sturdy and hard on the inside as other dominants. Using subtle psychological mechanisms rather than brute power, they nurture their littles into obedience.

Primal (Hunter)

Primals are mainly focused on their natural instincts and they enjoy letting their inner animal out during sex. The key part for primals play is that the participants show their raw, emotional sexual feelings during play. All of the labels, roles, and protocols go out the window, and the prey can become a snarling, growing, clawing animal hell-bent on getting away from its predator (you).

Master/Mistress

Masters/Mistresses receive complete control over the life of their slave(s), and all responsibilities that come with it. They go a step further than dominants in the sense that their power exchange is present 24/7 and in all aspects of their life (except for negotiated exceptions such as during their office jobs). Their primary focus is to create a stable and safe environment for their slave(s), to allow optimal servitude.

Bondage giver

Bondage givers like to consensually tie up and restrain their partner(s), using rope and/or other attributes (chains, cuffs, speaders...). Whether for sexual enhancement, for art or just for fun, they enjoy having their partners completely at their mercy.

Degradation giver

Degradation givers like to consensually

degrade and humiliate their play partner(s), either by acting upon them in a degrading way, or by or by forcing them to do things they consider degrading. Consent hereby is always assumed.

Owner

Owns and takes responsibility over a pet, on a 24/7 basis. Sexuality is not necessarily involved. Often provides in animal role play attributes (e.g. puts pet in a cage) but not necessarily.

Masochist

Masochists enjoy consensually receiving (certain types of) pain from their partner(s). This can be non-sexual or sexual. Masochism is independent of pain tolerance: it is purely about the ability to enjoy certain levels of pain.

Submissive

Submissives like to follow. Some like to give the control away to their partner(s) in, some like to have it forcibly taken from them in consensual relationships. Some are submissive only in the bedroom, others are submissive throughout their daily life as well (usually with limitations). Unlike the bottom roles (receiving pain/bondage/degradation), being submissive is more about who decides what happens (and takes the responsibility that comes with it) than about the contents of what happens.

Brat

Brats are, in essence, naughty submissives. They find disobedience a form of playfulness rather than letting their dominant down, and require a compatible dominant who will not only teach them a lesson, but also accept that any number of lessons might still not necessarily change this behavior.

girl/boy (Littles)

Littles (girls/boys) are submissive spirits that mix childlike innocence with naughty sexual curiosity. They long for a nurturing loving dominant who plays a guiding, almost parental role in their lives. While they require a softer approach to be dominated than most other submissives, their submission can go a lot deeper and sometimes rival those of slaves.

Primal (Prey)

Primals are mainly focused on their natural instincts and they enjoy letting their inner animal out during sex. The key part for primals play is that the participants show their raw, emotional sexual feelings during play. All of the labels, roles, and protocols go out the window, and the prey (you) can become a snarling, growing, clawing animal hell-bent on getting away from its predator

Slave

Slaves consensually completely hand over the control and responsibilities over their life to their Master/Mistress. They go a step further than submissives in the sense that their power exchange is present 24/7 and in all aspects of their life (except for negotiated exceptions such as during their jobs). Serving their Master/Mistress is their primary focus in life and they rarely have limits for them.

Bondage receiver

Bondage receivers likes to consensually be tied up and restrained, using rope and/or other attributes (chains, cuffs, speaders...). Whether for sexual enhancement, for art or just for fun, they enjoy being totally at the mercy of their partner(s).

Degradation receiver

Degradation receivers like to be consensually

degraded and humiliated by their play partner(s), either by being acted upon in a degrading way, or by being forced do things they consider degrading

Pet

Is property of their owner in daily life. Sexuality is not necessarily involved. Often combined with some form of animal role play (puppy, kitten, etc.) but not necessarily.